Expectations a root cause of disappointment
Happiness depends not on how well things are going but whether things are going better or worse than expected.
We all want Happiness! Don’t we. We can increase our happiness by simply lowering of our own expectations. E.g. a 1000/- Rs increment from the employer can result in happiness if you had expected less but unhappiness if you expected much more. You will notice the happiness or unhappiness is directly dependent on what you expected.
Have you ever wondered as to why the many love affair generally turns sour gradually after the wedding. The same old behaviour does not yield same happiness and as time passes the continuous bickering leads to antipathy. The reason is higher expectations from the both ends. We’re happier to accept other people’s difficult behaviors when we expect less from them.
It’s all about managing the “aspirational gap,” the gap between what is and what could be, what you have and what you expect. It’s all about expectation management. So there you have it. If happiness and compassion are your sole goals, lower your expectations. Expect no good things from circumstances or from others and you’ll be eternally delighted, grateful for any good things that happen.
Keeping high expectation works well in case of wanting improvement, and lower expectations if you want contentment.